It’s a new year and everyone is making resolutions, setting goals to be better and do better and live better.
Some of your goals may revolve around your parenting and how you’d like to improve your relationship with your children.
Whether you want to be a more patient mom, to eat healthier and exercise, to make a budget and stick with it – there is something you will need to reach those goals, and it’s something that is hard to give yourself.
We are usually really good at giving ourselves discouragement. The inner dialogue critiques us and belittles us and tears down all the efforts we sweat over, and we think that voice is always speaking truth to us.
Being Mom is sometimes thankless. It’s always full of reasons to be thankful, but our hearts do good to receive some thanks from time to time; that’s encouragement.
We don’t do what we do in order to be thanked – that’s not our end goal.
But two words can go a long way, and as moms, we all have a long way to go.
Can I offer you some encouragement?
Let me thank you for caring about your kids. Thank you for wiping their noses and cleaning their ears and picking up a billion cheerios and thousands of Legos and multiple mismatched socks off the living room floor.
Thank you for meeting with their teachers and for being their teacher. Thank you for wanting the best for them, even if some days you just want them to do their best to be quiet and maybe go to bed early.
Thank you for washing their laundry. Thank you for putting meals on the table and groceries in the fridge. Thank you for making them eat stuff they don’t like and for trying to find stuff they do.
Thank you for late night talks with your kids. Thank you for praying for them, and remember that worry and prayer are not the same. Thank you for loving them with tough love and also, for letting them melt your heart.
Whether you work at home or away, thank you for endless sacrifices and the unseen choices you make, daily.
Also, thank you for encouraging other moms. Thank you for recognizing that mom-on-the-edge and bringing her back with kind words and maybe some coffee and free babysitting.
You are the best mom for your kids. When doubt comes to tell you otherwise, remember that God makes children and gives them as gifts.
Remember that family was His idea, and no matter how your family came together, be confident that He knows what He’s doing.
By all means, take steps to be a more patient, more loving, more intentional mom. But remember that you are not designed to meet every need on your own.
If you have more than one child, you have more than one personality to work with and each one can seem like a whole new ballgame when it comes to parenting – you will burn out if you don’t seek help.
If you believe God made your children, then it shouldn’t be a stretch for you to believe that He has the best plan for raising them and keeping your sanity, all at the same time.
So make your goals and be a better mom this year, but remember that you have already been chosen for this job. You are already the best choice. You know your children and love them like nobody else on this earth, and they need you.
You are the best mom.
“Behold, children are a heritage from the LORD, The fruit of the womb is a reward” Psalm 127:3