As I posted last week, I have found myself in a bit of a different place than many of the other Douglas County Mom bloggers.
We all want to share our lives with you, but our hearts are never to sway you from what works best for your family.
Destiny put that very well in her blog about being a stay at home mom (SAHM).
Being that I am not a SAHM, I wanted to share my thoughts on being a working mom (WM).
During the course of our marriage, I have always had some kind of job.
Those jobs have been part time, work from home and full time outside the home.
I’ve been blessed to have a husband with a fairly flexible schedule to be able to pick up the slack that some of my jobs have caused as well.
Still, there’s a lot of guilt associated with a mom going to work.
When my first was only six months old, I started working full time for a school, after being on part time at our church.
It was one of the hardest transitions I have ever made.
I had a fantastic friend who I trusted completely with our little one, so I knew she was in good hands.
But, I had to let go of some of my plans on how things should happen to be able to fit the new situation.
Not being in control of that was scary and a little depressing.
A part of me struggled with missing out on how my baby girl was growing and changing.
We did decide that no matter what new thing the sitter might have seen Emilie do during the day, it didn’t really happen until she got home and I was the first to experience it with her.
It helped a little.
As our family grew, job situations changed a few times.
I was able to work from home until our youngest went to school. That was as close to being a SAHM as I have ever been.
And let me tell you, my house wasn’t any cleaner and my laundry was not ever completely done.
Hats off to any of you moms, staying at home or working, that are making that happen successfully!
Being a WM does have a couple of advantages as well.
For one, you are provided an opportunity to build relationships that are not child-centric.
Everyone should take time to be an individual, not only someone’s mom. And here is a chance to do it.
And though it might sound crass to say it, the financial contribution a WM’s job brings to the family is a blessing.
In some situations, it is a necessity. And there should never be guilt about that.
There’s an argument that a WM would not be able to be the type of role model and teacher that her children would need.
I would have to say that working outside the home exposes your children to character traits of responsibility, as you choose to do something your family needs, and honor, as you put the needs of the whole family above your own desire to be at home.
Whatever decision you make for your family, it can be positive. Make sure your children know they are provided for, that you love them and care about what is going on in their lives, and it won’t matter if you are a SAHM or a WM.
Everyone should take time to be an individual, not only someone’s mom.