This time of year can fill us with dread instead of “ho-ho-ho” jolliness. If we are part of a difficult family that we’re expected to get together with, we know the scene won’t be like a Norman Rockwell painting. If we are new to recovery and wondering if we can get through family get-togethers, we suspect our holidays won’t be easy. What can we do? We can admit that the holidays aren’t perfect for most people. It isn’t true that everyone else is having a good time. Expect some difficulty, and you can come up with a plan to cope. …