Robbin Carollo | moms@nrtoday.com

More kids doesn't make parenting harder | Moms

As most of you know, I am a mother of four children younger than three years old.

I’ll give you a minute to stop laughing.

Anyway, a lot of conversations nowadays start with someone going, “Wow! You’re so brave!”

Putting aside the fact that I’m pretty confident, “brave” is a euphemism for “stupid,” most people say this because they think I’ve performed some Herculean feat by having so many kids, so close together.

But the truth is, once you’ve had one kid, you’re basically set for having two or three or however many more because in reality, parenting is hard and no matter how many kids you have, it never gets easier.

A group of friends and I were talking the other day about how there is a perception out there that the more kids you have equates to the more work you have, and that therefore it must be harder to be a mom of many kids than a mom of only one child.

Wrong.

I mean, yes. Sure. Having more than one child means more diapers, more snotty noses to clean, more food to prepare and more toys to clean-up, but just because there is more physical work involved does not mean that having more kids is any more difficult than just having one.

You see, that first kid is a doozy. From the minute you find out you’re pregnant until, well, forever I imagine, you’re on a learning curve.


Remember the first time that stick showed the “+” sign? The kind of breathless disbelief followed by one thousand different emotions that you experienced?

You think to yourself, “What next?!” and really, that’s always the case with your first child.

During the first nine months of your time together, you learn all sorts of new information you never thought your brain would have space for.

Words and phrases like “luteal phases,” “gestational week counts,” “preeclampsia,” and “birth plan” all become part of your personal lexicon.

Then when you give birth and have that precious little bundle in your arms, your “what next” moments are filled with discoveries about meconium, the jaundice and umbilical granulomas.

Not to mention all of the new information and discoveries that comes with breastfeeding or formula selection.

Diapers and wipes and infant laundry detergent will just be some of the many new items you have on your grocery list.

And that’s just within the first few days of their life.

So that’s why I say the first is always the hardest. With each new kid you gain a little more knowledge about what this whole parenting thing is about.

Admittedly, I am no pro, but even my doctor told me that with our last babies that I’m more laid back than I was when I just had the one kid.

I don’t know, maybe it’s self-preservation, but I feel like with numbers two thru four there is less and less that I haven’t seen or experienced as mom.


That first kid you have rips off your proverbial parenting Band-Aid.

So, if you’re considering adding to your brood, just know that it won’t get any easier—but it also won’t get any harder.

That first kid you have rips off your proverbial parenting Band-Aid.


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