I am really enjoying having teens.
We’ve gotten through (most of) the messes, whining and busyness of parents of littles, and are in the last stages of “what you need to know before you grow up.”
You are very busy with so much when they are young, and I’m truly enjoying the time I can spend now calmly talking through life experiences and problems and working on solutions together.
I feel like I have relationships with them that surpass that of parent/child and it’s a treasure to me...because this stuff is what will last.
In the past few weeks, our family has had some pretty major changes happening around us.
I don’t need to go into all kinds of detail here, but suffice it to say my youngest isn’t comfortable with all the things changing.
Part of our current situation is that some of my daughter’s classmates will not be returning to her school.
That, on top of losing some beloved teachers, has made her (us) very sad.
As we were driving home the other day (great place to talk to your teens!) she opened up about her frustration with the way things were going.
Leaning her head back on the seat, she said, “I just don’t like things to change.”
I totally related.
Her personality is a lot like mine.
We love tradition and hold tightly to ‘the way things are.’
I don’t think tradition is a bad thing, but I do believe you can miss out on something better if you can’t accept a new situation.
As we drove along, I was able to share something I’ve learned about changing.
Here’s what I know: “Jesus Christ is the same yesterday and today and forever.” (Hebrews 13:8 NIV)
Whatever happens in the world, my God is the same.
If I’m holding tightly to something that needs to change, it could take me from the very place I most desire to be, by His side.
Things happen in our lives that we have no control over.
I wish it weren’t so.
We can only make one choice, and that is to stand firm on something that will not change and know we are protected there. And that will make it much easier to accept our current situation.
Sharing this with my daughter was important. It spoke to her and me as well.
I’m still learning to be the whole person I was created to be. Hopefully, she will learn this now and not wait until she is talking to her own teen someday.
“Jesus Christ is the same yesterday and today and forever.” (Hebrews 13:8 NIV)