Marla Smart: Get out of the storm! | Moms

I’m sure most of you have experienced the phenomenon of what I like to call the “Perfect Storm of Household Necessities.”

It’s that certain month where everything from toilet paper and toothpaste, to window cleaner and mascara needs to be replenished at the same time.

It doesn’t happen every month. And that’s a good thing, especially on my budget.

It can be very frustrating during the perfect storm at my house because we use the envelope system and my grocery budget actually includes all these expenditures as well. But, when it does, naturally, money is found for each item and adjustments might be made to the grocery list and menus. I don’t even bat an eye.

Many times, as mothers, we experience another perfect storm.

It’s that day when if you have to try to answer one more question, drive one more mile, make one more dinner, listen to one more complaint about homework, or feel one more body attached to yours that you’ll just run away.

Admit it, you’ve been there!

What’s happening is that your resources are depleted. Your patience has melted away, you are tired and you have hit an emotional wall. And it feels like something has to change or you won’t be able to go on for one more step.

And many of us will stop there and live in the middle of that perfect storm for a long time. I’ve seen mothers live all the way through toddlerhood in this place.

Why is it that we would rearrange a month’s grocery budget to replenish depleted necessities, but we won’t take time to replenish our emotional needs as well? Aren’t they necessary to our survival? Yes!

We need to make time for ourselves. As moms, we don’t do that often enough. We forsake quiet time, pampering our bodies, friendships... all for the “love” of our children.

But is it loving, when we enter into the “perfect storm,” and our words are extra sharp and our senses so heightened and tuned into negativity that we can’t respond kindly to anyone?

Let's encourage eachother as moms to plunge in and do something new or in a different way. Part of that includes making time for friends (sans the littles!) and being OK with treating yourself on occasion.

That could mean taking some "me time" to give yourself a pedicure or read that book that has been sitting on the shelf since the baby was born. And shock of shocks... it could mean closing the door to the bathroom.

The point is, it's important to replenish what has been depleted. You know what you need to make that happen, so go do it! Remember, it's not a selfish choice, it's necessary. So, get out of your storm and enjoy.

Why is it that we would rearrange a month’s grocery budget to replenish depleted necessities, but we won’t take time to replenish our emotional needs as well? Aren’t they necessary to our survival?


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The News-Review Updated Jan 28, 2014 11:27AM Published Jan 26, 2014 11:45AM Copyright 2014 The News-Review. All rights reserved. This material may not be published, broadcast, rewritten or redistributed.