Jill Fay: Making time ... for quality time

"Mom, why don't you spend much time with me anymore?" asked my 10-year-old son.

This question was posed at the end of our day when I had worked all day filling cake orders, making meals, driving to and from school and kiddo activities, helping with homework, bedtime, bath routines, etc.

We had spent time! All of my time, in fact.

But it wasn't the kind of time he was speaking of. Quality time is what he was wanting and needing.

Funny thing is, quality time is one of my love languages. Spending quality time is how my love tank gets filled. And I am learning this is one of his love languages as well.

After we talked about how Mom is tired at the end of the day, he shared his appreciation but strongly stood his ground on how much he wanted my time with just him. To hang out, talk and just be close to each other.

The question rang in my ears all night. My son had really opened my eyes. He is now 10, but I know that when he was little he would act out or cry for attention and that was really what he was trying to tell me. His cries didn't always mean, "I'm hungry," or "I need" this or that. It was him trying to say, "I need you!" More importantly, "I need your time!"

We moms stay busy doing busy work. Most of it is our responsibilities and really needs to be done, but when we are able, we should take time with those littles while we can.

Instead of reading a book, watching TV, chatting on the phone or surfing the net (Facebook is my guilty pleasure).

I have waisted precious time for selfish reasons or because I have a hard time saying no to chores, people or my projects.

Have you ever looked at a picture of your child when they were younger and ask "Where did the time go?"

Well, it goes fast all right! Like a blink of an eye. God has entrusted us with these beautiful gifts we call our children and we need to be pouring in as much attention, love and life skills as we can - while we can! It won't be long before time gets away and we won't have the opportunity to go back.

Look at your little one's face and study their magnificant behavior because tomorrow they will look different and will change quickly. Listen to what speaks love to them. Maybe just do some listening and observing while they play. I have challenged myself to make more time.. the good quality time for my kids so that at the end of the day both will know that today we spent real quality time together.

I challenge you to do the same.

Jill Fay is married with two children. Read her Fridays on Douglas County Moms.

We moms stay busy doing busy work. Most of it is our responsibilities and really needs to be done, but when we are able, we should take time with those littles while we can.


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