About four years ago, while playing on Facebook, I came across a cute little interview to give my children. It warned across the top “Some of the answers are... shocking! I dare you to interview your child!”
I thought, “OK, there’s a challenge. Let’s see what the kids answer.”
Suffice it to say, I had a very hard time keeping a straight face while my youngest, then 9, answered the questions.
I wish I could have given this interview to my kids a few times as they were growing up, since it gives me a sense of their perceptions of me as a mom. Kids are brutally honest at times! While it could have made me feel bad about myself and my parenting skills, I chose to take to heart the words of all three children and make changes in myself.
I have heard it said that perception is reality. I believe that. I know there are things about being a mom that I can’t change, but I want my children’s perceptions (and therefore their memories) of me to include positive things. Changing everything about myself to get a better answer on this interview is not the goal. However, I should make an effort to better myself by being attentive to how my children perceive me and making changes in my behavior to reflect the person I want them to know as Mom.
Here is the interview given to my youngest, along with her exact answers.
1. What is something Mom always says to you?
2. What makes Mom happy?
3. What makes Mom sad?
"The grades that we get."
4. How does your mom make you laugh?
"Tickling me or a joke."
5. What was your mom like as a child?
"How would I know that?"
6. How old is your mom?
7. How tall is your mom?
8. What is her favorite thing to do?
"Watch 'American Idol'."
9. What does your mom do when you're not around?
"Go to the movies."
10. If your mom becomes famous, what will it be for?
11. What is your mom really good at?
"Piano and singing."
12. What is your mom not very good at?
"Not freaking out."
13. What does your mom do for her job?
14. What is your mom's favorite food?
15. What makes you proud of your mom?
16. If your mom were a cartoon character, who would she be?
17. What do you and your mom do together?
18. How are you and your mom the same?
"We have the same color hair... kind of."
19. How are you and your mom different?
"I go outside and play."
20. How do you know your mom loves you?
"She's hugged me and prayed for me when I'm sick and fed me and takes care of me."
I know there are things about being a mom that I can’t change, but I want my children’s perceptions (and therefore their memories) of me to include positive things.