Jill Fay: So much good in our world

What kind of world do I share with my children?

This world is filled with many troubles. In my opinion, there is too much focus on negativity. People can be so mean!

Sadly, moms can be so mean.

I believe there is a time for everything. Right now, my kids are in a time of naïve innocence. They are filled with many questions and so much trust in me and my views. My son, who is turning 11 soon, is growing in knowledge too quickly. My husband and I find ourselves having more and more one-on-one talks with him concerning “life” subjects.

I feel myself fighting every day to choose a positive outlook over negativity, which can be very hard when you see so many around you struggling.

Or perhaps you are the one struggling. The biblical verse, "Rejoice with those who rejoice and mourn with those who mourn," plays in my head as I type this out.

I have feelings of anxiety of what the “real” world holds for my children. Sometimes, my fear shows. That's when more questions arise with my kids. I often ask myself, "Should I as a parent be real and honest?" or "Should I sugar coat the answer I give?"

Such a hard question! But I would like to believe my children will appreciate honesty some day.

Yet, again, I feel there is a time for everything. Some things are more appropriate to share at certain ages in our child's life. I even think it is OK to tell them that when they have those pressing questions.

Often, I tell my children I will need to think about that question and get back to them. That way I can figure out an age-appropriate answer. Sometimes just sharing a little is enough for them.

My son, at age 8, asked me the dreaded question. "Mom, what's sex?"

Ugh. Wide-eyed, I said, “Let me get back to you on that one please.” I then called in the mom troops to get opinions on what to share and even found a book to order on it for his age. Then, when I approached him about it, he said, “I don't think I am ready, Mom. We can talk about it at another time.”

We still discussed his interest but agreed more talk would come as he got older... like the age he is now! My husband stepped in for that one, thankfully.

I have learned so much from mentor mothers, women who have gone before me and have raised well-balanced children. I look for women God puts in my life to learn from. I also like to come along with other women (moms) to “do life” with. These are women who have the same-aged children who are usually friends with my kids.

I have learned the ministry of motherhood is best served as part of a team. Not just with your spouse but other moms. We need to unite together and serve together not only for our children but for support.

We make the world our children live in and see. Let's choose to have positive behavior toward one another and uplift another when life throws us curve balls (that we swing and miss and even get knocked down by at times.) There is so much good in our world, and I am happy to share it with you moms out there! Let's support and encourage one another in our accomplishments and failures! Wouldn't it be fantastic if our children grew up to do the same?

Jill Fay is married with two children. Read her Thursdays on Douglas County Moms.

I feel myself fighting every day to choose a positive outlook over negativity, which can be very hard when you see so many around you struggling.


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