Recently, I saw a sign that read: “Today I opened my mouth and my Mother came out.” I giggled a little because I could totally identify. (I love my Mom so much, and she knows this...I’m not making fun of her!)
I have caught myself on more than one occasion thinking that very thing as words flow out of my mouth to my children.
I remember when I was growing up thinking, “I will NEVER do that to my kids!” and “When I become a mother...” I did try to keep the promises I made to myself. Some of them worked. More often than not, I find myself thinking, “Oh! Now I understand why she did that.”
There must be standard reactions that come from parents when their kids do things. I think most of us get to the point in our parenting where we turn to our own parents and tell them how sorry we are for what we put them through, now that we know what it feels like to be on the receiving end of some action/attitude or another.
Mommies joke a lot with each other about how children who try their parents will “get theirs” when they have their own kids. I guess it’s true in a way – pretty much because all kids do things that push buttons and send mom and dad over the edge at times.
I’ve called my mother to apologize on many occasions, usually because my children have done something and my reaction stirs memories deep in me of a reaction she had to something I did. I suppose this is her “reward” for putting up with me.
I don’t believe in karma, but kids do things and parents react, then it repeats years later. It’s the never-ending saga of life.
So, rest assured, you will hear your mother’s words come out of your mouth and you will understand why she said what she said.
“Today I opened my mouth and my Mother came out.”