More than once in our marriage my husband has mentioned to me how grateful he is that he does not have to live in my head.
Where I take time to prepare for all the “what-ifs” that are lurking on the horizon, he will plunge forward, with little more preparation than what he needs at the moment.
What I call preparing for every contingency, he calls worrying. When I wonder what people are thinking about what I’m doing, he calls me paranoid. He tires quickly during conversations with me because I tend to switch topics midway through. (In my defense, there’s always so much to say!)
It’s a really good thing that we come at life from different angles. I’m comfortable with how I do things, but my thoughts and feelings should be tempered with his nonchalance at times.
On the other hand, there are definitely times that my husband needs to be reminded of the consequences of certain actions. We make a good team that way.
All that said, I’ve really been appreciating (and maybe coveting) hubby’s way of looking at life the last couple of weeks.
As I have begun a new phase of my life, even though I am prepared to do the job, I have felt a bit out of sorts. I am looking to others for approval as I make most decisions.
It’s a little tiring, to be quite frank. The “me” part of me knows this is just how I do things, and yes, I am used to that. But there is a piece of me that is looking for a way out of the vicious cycle of it all.
That’s where my counterpart can come in. Sometimes we must, for everyone’s sakes, be prepared to look at things from another angle. It helps when you have a good model of that living in your house.
I can step back from my situation and think, “How would he react now?” Thinking this way is giving me the courage to make decisions and march forward with confidence.
Don’t forget to appreciate your spouse, even for those things that may irritate you on occasion. You never know when you might need his example.