I’ve said it before, I’ll probably say it again, but it bears repeating: Moms, taking time for yourself is so important.
Classic scenario: You wake up before everyone else in order to get little people ready for the day, including making breakfasts and lunches, then drive them to school. Back at home you clean house, do laundry, run errands, if you don’t have another job as well.
In the afternoon, you’re back at school in the pick-up line, then away to soccer practice two times a week, music lessons on the off days, and games on the weekends.
The evenings are spent assisting with homework, preparing little ones for bed, washing dishes and maybe one more load of clothes before falling in bed.
And it really doesn’t slow down as they get older. As a matter of fact, it could get even busier because there are so many fun things to sign your kids up to do.
That in it self, is a discussion, but one I am not touching on today. My point is in all that busyness, there MUST be a few moments for you to recharge.
I know how hard it is. I’ve been there. Your family needs you so much, and it is something you signed up to do. But you can’t do your job if you’re running on empty, Mom!
Even the most efficient of us, with everything together, even those of us blessed with a husband who has freedom to help, need those moments to herself.
What I have found is that if you can even take a tiny break where you recognize it as “your time,” you’ll have a little boost to get you through the next portion of the day.
You may need to institute a “Mommy Time Rule.” Give the kids something to do with clear instructions to not request anything for a specific amount of time.
I promise, if you’ve given the kids something to do, they will survive you stepping away for a minute. If they are too little to be expected to follow these guidelines, use the playpen or naptime.
Here are a few “mini breaks” to try:
Enjoy a cup of your favorite tea alone in a room...with the door closed.
Read just one article of a magazine you love...with no interruptions.
Close the door when you take your shower. (This one is funny to me, but really, there are so many of us who share bathroom time with the littles!)
These things don’t take long. What I’ve noticed about “mini breaks” is that it is the attitude you have about that time. Can you appreciate this little bit of respite for what it is – a small recharge for your system?
Your mindset during and after the break is just as important as what you do. If you can’t enjoy what is happening, it’s not going to help you at all.
A friend of mine posted on Facebook a few days ago, “It's that time of morning when I wait patiently for the coffee to brew.... Life's little joys often taken for granted.”
That’s the attitude you have to have. Even waiting for the coffee to brew can be your very own time, a little daily ritual that belongs to you. And it can be a peaceful, recharging event for you if you let it.
Sometimes our lives don’t allow for elaborate plans of “Girls’ Night Out,” and spa days. Find those little things that can recharge you and use them to your advantage. You are worth that, and it not only will bless you, but extends to your family as well.
...you can’t do your job if you’re running on empty, Mom!