Since Liam was born, John and I have had very little time alone. It's not that we didn't expect it to happen, but it's definitely changed the dynamics of our relationship.
Our conversations often focus on what Liam is doing. Our weekend outings are more hurried. Dinner time has become a carefully choreographed dance routine of John and I trading off between cooking and feeding Liam his sweet potatoes. And when we're finally alone at night and the house is quiet, sleep sounds more enticing than staying up late - especially when we know a wake-up call is coming from the room next door before dawn.
Life with a baby is definitely a more selfless way of living, and I guess if you're a good parent that's how it should be. But I find myself feeling out of touch with John sometimes and out of touch with myself, which is why I am a huge advocate of date nights and "me time."
I admit, and I know I'm not alone in this, that it's hard to leave my child in the hands of others. As moms, we feel guilty. But after a few hours away, I always feel reconnected and rejuvenated. It helps me to appreciate my life as a mom and as a wife.
Recently, on our spring break trip to Palm Springs to visit my parents, we were given an evening off from parenting. The kids were in good hands, the weather was warm and the restaurant was dark and romantic. There may have even been a bottle of wine involved. And John and I talked - completely uninterrupted - like we haven't talked in weeks. And we laughed, reminisced about falling in love and got sentimental about creating this beautiful family.
It was perfect and something we plan to recreate often.
Anne Creighton Blodgett is married with a son and a stepson. Read her Thursdays on Douglas County Moms. Also check out her personal blog here.
Life with a baby is definitely a more selfless way of living, and I guess if you\'re a good parent that\'s how it should be. But I find myself feeling out of touch with John sometimes and out of touch with myself.