Consideration is key in public
I read with interest a recent letter from a writer who complained because others criticized her group for being loud in a restaurant. I will agree with her that the man who yelled “shut up” was rude and could have handled the situation in a more dignified manner.
However, has the writer ever thought about taking other people’s feelings into consideration? She and her friends apparently have the opportunity and money to meet together four days a week for food and laughter. But, what about those who don’t have the circumstances or the funds to meet together even one day a week, let alone four!
We never know if people in a restaurant are entertaining out-of-town guests, celebrating a special occasion, or just having a hard time concentrating on what is being said at their table because of others dominating the air space. It’s very possible that the elderly group of people the writer spoke about were just trying to enjoy a rare time together.
My husband and I, along with our guests, have been in that situation before. Even though we were seated first, we had to ask the host if we could move to another table, because it was impossible to carry on a conversation with our loved ones.
My suggestion would be that if her group is going to be causing people frustration by their loudness, she might ask the host to seat her group in a more isolated place in the restaurant. Another option would be to keep their conversation down so others can enjoy their time together, too.
Hopefully, we can all enjoy each other’s company at restaurants by being thoughtful, and by taking the feelings of others into consideration.