About 200 teachers are getting a chance this week to dig deeper into Conscious Discipline, a program designed to use productive relationships between teachers and students to promote lasting change in the classroom.
The seminar comes at very little cost for most of the Douglas County educators attending, thanks to the financial support of the Ford Family Foundation in Roseburg.
Dr. Becky Bailey, who developed the program about 22 years ago, conducts the seminars by satellite from the company office in Orlando, Florida. It’s a trauma-informed social and emotional learning program that was founded on safety, connection and problem-solving, with concepts applied in the classroom that extend to every facet of life.
Analicia Nicholson, director of educational services for Douglas Education Service District, said the local support of the program came from the leadership of the districts in the county. Several groups of teachers had attended Conscious Discipline seminars previously through the Ford Family Foundation’s teacher’s program. They were impressed with that they saw.
“After hearing them report back, they realized that this fit in really well with the social-emotional learning strategy that we’ve been working on over the past few years,” Nicholson said.
The program is designed for older elementary students all the way through high school.
Amy Speidel, a master instructor for Conscious Discipline, said the program was developed after educators recognized that there seems to be less resiliency, self-regulation and management of emotions.
For the program to be successful, Speidel said, adults need to be building these skills.
“We are saying we are going to build our skill set and ability and our internal mechanism for calming and recognizing our own triggers and the language to use, to be thoughtful and helpful, so that we can pass that on to the next generation,” Speidel said.
Speidel said she thinks the program has become so popular because of violence in schools and students that are disconnected and living with fear.
Not just teachers, but administrators, mental health providers, and parents can benefit from the program, Speidel said. At the end of the week, Speidel said the attendees will take away an understanding and feel the power of the pieces that the program puts together.
It’s highly unusual that the seminar is held in a small town like Roseburg, but the support of the Ford Family Foundation made it possible. The tuition is not cheap. It costs $1,100 per person to attend but most of that was covered by the foundation. Anne Kubisch, president of FFF, said the educators are really investing in it during their summer break.
“Normally it’s just too costly to do it in a place like Roseburg, so the educators requested it. We looked into whether we could underwrite the cost of it, and decided to go ahead and do it,” Kubisch said. “It really shows how we in Douglas County are bringing the latest and best thinking about how educators can meet the needs of their students.”
The six-and-a-half-day seminar is a big commitment for the teachers, who are taking their own time to learn about Conscious Discipline.
“I like it,” said Diana Juarez, a high school teacher at Phoenix School in Roseburg. “It is based on structuring connections, and it’s just daily habits that you’re building.”
Michelle Lind, a teacher at Coffenberry Middle School in Myrtle Creek, was learning about Conscious Discipline for the first time and it’s a program that appeals to her.
“It does, in teaching kids how to connect and then hopefully talk about what’s going on, so they can choose to get along with others,” Lind said.
She will take the information back to her school and school officials will look at what parts of the framework they think they can implement.
Sutherlin West Intermediate School just finished its second year of the three-year rollout of the program, and principal Trish McCracken is sold on it after seven of her teachers were sent to an institute in Arkansas to learn about the Conscious Discipline program, thanks to a grant from the Ford Family Foundation.
McCracken was instrumental in getting the seminar, which sold out quickly, to come to Roseburg. Sutherlin sent 15 teachers to the event.
“Our program is going strong, and more and more people are committing to it at the elementary level, and the kids really like it,” McCracken said. “It makes them feel calm at school, and gives them a way to solve problems.”
Last week Nicole Engler faced a parent’s worst nightmare when she rushed her unconscious 21-month-old daughter, Remington, into Evergreen Urgent Care, hoping to resuscitate her after she unknowingly left her in a car for eight hours.
Thursday, she and her extended family will say goodbye to Remington during a private memorial.
In a press conference Thursday morning, defense attorney David Terry wore Remington’s favorite pacifier around his neck. After speaking with District Attorney Rick Wesenberg earlier that morning, Terry said he was confident Wesenberg would do his “due diligence.”
Thursday’s press conference is the latest development in a tragedy has touched many in the community.
The defense attorney visited The News-Review Thursday morning to provide additional details about Engler’s case and express his desire that it be dismissed on the basis that the family nurse practitioner at Evergreen Family Medicine suffered from lapsed memory that day.
On Wednesday, Terry sent out a letter to attorneys across the state, detailing the events of that horrific day.
Terry said the saddest day in his 40-year career came last week, when he took the grieving mother out of a holding cell to see her baby.
On June 21, Engler saw her husband asleep on the couch after he finished a night shift as an emergency medical technician, Terry wrote. So, she decided to drop off their daughter at daycare for him.
“As she drove across town, following the exact route she drove six days a week between her house and her work, her mind was already on her precious patients and the procedures, treatments and tough calls she would have to make all shift long,” Terry wrote in his letter.
Midday, she got back into her car and drove to Dutch Bros., chatting with baristas about an upcoming fishing trip to Mexico. “When queried by the baristas as to how her daughter was, she responded, ‘Having another happy play day at Cobb Street,’” Terry wrote.
At 4:30, Engler walked to her car and saw her unconscious 21-month-old daughter Remington in her car seat. She thought she had dropped her off at daycare.
She rushed her into Evergreen Urgent Care.
“If you have ever heard a scream that just curdles your brain of a mother coming in screaming about her child, you can’t get that out of your mind,” Evergreen Family Medicine President Tim Powell said.
“And then the weeping and the agony that you see in that person is just beyond human description. They were a witness to that,” Powell said, referring to staff members that helped give the child CPR.
Powell is urging the community to support Engler rather than condemn her.
“There is no judgment possible that is more harsh than the one Nicole is bringing on herself,” he said, “Her heart is just crushed.”
Powell said the question the public keeps asking is what kind of person could forget a baby.
The answer, he said, is people from all walks of life: doctors, principals, engineers, social workers and scientists.
“The facts differ but there’s always that horrible moment when their mind somehow recognizes what has happened,” Powell said.
Since 1998, there have been three cases of child vehicular heatstroke deaths in Oregon. Last week’s tragedy marks the fourth in the state and the 18th this year in the country, according to noheatstroke.org, a website run by San Jose State professor Jan Null.
Last year there were 42 child deaths as a result of vehicular heatstroke. On average, more than half of the cases are caused by a caregiver that forgot the child, and another 18 percent are from parents who intentionally leave their child in a car, according to the website.
In 2015, Washington County prosecutors decided not to file criminal charges against an Intel engineer in Hillsboro whose daughter died after he forgot she was in the car for six hours.
The day before Remington Engler’s death, 367 miles away, a 23-year-old mother left her 18-month-old in a car for 10 hours while she “socialized with people.” The woman is being lodged in jail in California without bail on suspicion of willfully causing or permitting a child to suffer great bodily injury or death.
In May, a 7-month-old died in Texas when her father forgot to drop her off at daycare and left her in the car while he worked all day.
Last year, the Oregon Senate passed a bill that exempts people from criminal or civil liability if they break into a car to rescue a child or pet.
After news of Thursday’s death broke, there were many who commented on Facebook, saying there was no excuse for Engler’s actions, and some who went as far as calling for her death or saying she should be left in a hot car.
But for every negative comment, there were also comments expressing support for Engler and her family.
“Man! My heart just hurts for that family. All these judgmental haters saying ‘there’s no excuse’... well, put yourself in her shoes. You don’t have the first clue what she was going through nor are you having to live with what happened. I’m not making excuses for her, and I pray to God I never have to go through anything like this,” wrote Teresa Thomas on a News-Review Facebook post.
Several commented that they felt Engler should be punished for the death.
“She should be punished. She is an adult and supposedly responsible. Shame on her. Poor little girl. You don’t over look something like this. God will judge her. I don’t feel sorry for her at all,” Betsey Smith wrote on a News-Review Facebook post.
Powell’s assertion that “if you’re capable of forgetting your cellphone you’re capable of forgetting your child,” angered some commenters.
The president said he believes people want to distance themselves from the tragedy, because they don’t think they are capable of forgetting their child.
“In some ways the problem is this simple: people don’t think this could ever to them. And it could,” Powell said.
“If you would’ve asked Nicole on Wednesday before the Thursday of this horror she would’ve almost certainly said, ‘Oh no, I would never do that. I could never do that to my baby.’”
Powell said he thinks the main factor in Thursday’s incident was a change in routine.
“Her husband usually took the baby, they had their usual babysitters who are wonderful people and are just utterly devastated by this,” Powell said.
He said Engler loved her baby.
“Those of us that knew Nicole, and many testified, she was a wonderful mother and she loved her baby so much,” Powell said.
He described the scene at CHI Mercy Medical Center, where Remington Engler was pronounced deceased.
“I saw people in tears everywhere, just sobbing. Their spirit was just crushed,” he said.
When Terry arrived at the hospital, he saw the girl’s father draped over her body, weeping uncontrollably.
On Friday, crisis counselors visited Evergreen to comfort staff and a candlelight vigil was held in the parking lot later that day.
“The reason that’s important is if we’re going to help and support Nicole we’re going to need to take care of ourselves,” Powell said.
Staff members are wearing pink ribbons in remembrance.
In an interview with The News-Review Thursday, Terry broke down in tears talking about the upcoming memorial.
Terry wrote that after Engler was arrested on charges of second-degree manslaughter and housed in the Douglas County Jail, she pulled her hair out in clumps, begging to take her own life.
Powell said he thinks the “best way for Nicole to get her life back is to give it away,” elaborating that she should give herself to the service of others.
Later he said, “The way she knows to do that is in medical service.”
Powell said he’s been researching what has happened to other parents after they’ve lost a child to similar circumstances.
“In every case the results in that life are so severe that it’s difficult for them to come back to a purposeful existence,” Powell said. “I’d like to see if we can’t make that different for Nicole.”
Beau Hanlin, 24, of Roseburg, was arrested Tuesday and charged with the alleged assault of a sheriff’s deputy who responded to a domestic incident in Roseburg.
Hanlin is the son of Douglas County Sheriff John Hanlin.
According to court documents, the incident occurred on Peggy Avenue in Roseburg. When police arrived, Beau Hanlin was allegedly in the homeowner's driveway and yelling at his girlfriend. He then hit a red Toyota truck.
Police said the homeowner then sprayed Beau Hanlin with a hose.
“Beau was talking but not making a ton of sense. He kept talking about family, living in his shoe, he didn’t ask to wear the shoes, and everyone leaving him,” said the probable cause affidavit signed by Deputy Joshua VanDrimmelen.
VanDrimmelen said he saw Beau Hanlin walk toward the house and asked him to come back toward him. He said he had to guide Beau Hanlin, who “kept walking off.”
Douglas County Undersheriff Jeff Frieze arrived at the scene, and the two attempted to detain Beau Hanlin, but Beau Hanlin resisted arrest, according to the report.
That’s when he allegedly injured VanDrimmelen.
“I was pulling Beau to the ground from the front as Undersheriff Jeff Frieze was trying to take Beau into custody from the back. We fell to the ground, hurting my ankle in the process,” he said.
In the background, according to the report, the homeowner could be heard yelling for her daughter to get in the house.
The homeowner told police she didn’t fear for her life, but she was worried Beau Hanlin would “come after her.” She told police Beau Hanlin had arrived at the home around 2 a.m., and that he was “acting weird and saying he is going to burn down the house, kill the cat and so on.”
The damage to the truck was assessed at $1, because it had other dents and police weren’t sure which dent Hanlin had allegedly caused.
Beau Hanlin was charged with assault in the third degree, assault in the fourth degree, two counts of resisting arrest and criminal mischief in the third degree, according to court documents.
Beau Hanlin was lodged in the Douglas County jail on $25,000 bail.
John Hanlin said Thursday he didn’t know any of the details about the incident, and that he doesn’t have any contact with his son.
It’s not the first time Beau Hanlin has been in trouble with the law. In 2017 he was arrested on suspicion of driving under the influence of intoxicants, hit and run, and driving uninsured following an incident in which police said Beau Hanlin backed his car into another vehicle at the Idle Hour bar while intoxicated. Hanlin has received treatment through a diversion program in that case, which is being handled by Roseburg Municipal Court, and recently obtained an extension of time required to make payments on that agreement. Once the conditions of his diversion agreement are met, the court may dismiss the charges.
In 2015, he was convicted of third-degree rape after he had sex with a 15-year-old girl. He was 21 at the time.