Before I became a mom, I thought I had it all figured out. I knew I would always have well behaved kids. I would have a well organized home. I knew that I would have every meal planned out perfectly. I would be caught up on all laundry and dishes at all times.
All of this seemed totally doable until that wonderful day in June of 2007 when everything changed. I became an ACTUAL mom!
It didn't take long for me to realize that the way I had pictured my mom life was not only not doable, it was totally unrealistic.
Mom life is definitely an exercise in extremes. Total happiness and complete discouragement. Absolute order and utter chaos. Home cooked meals and a taco from a drive-through window.
I had a lot to learn. Balance is not something I am very good at. I tend to be an "all or nothing" type girl. I like to focus on one thing at a time. I like things to feel orderly and under control.
However, I'm learning that that mindset might not be the best way for me to mother. It may be the trick for another mom, but not for me.
The list could be very long, but here are just a few things I am continually learning about my mothering:
There will be dishes in the sink
Laundry will be drying on racks in the dining room and kids playroom
My kids will have knock-down, drag-out fights
I will have times that I don't feel like I'm reaching my kids hearts at all
Crumbs and dust will be present
There are those few (very few) days that I get it all done. Laundry and dishes done? YES!
The house cleaned (and vacuumed)? YES! Kids playing well together? YES!
I'm not going to lie, I love those days. I feel so calm when I feel like it's all under control.
I feel like I'm doing it all right.
But you know what - that's not what mothering my kids is all about. It's about the times I break up fights and help my kids navigate conflict in a Godly way.
It's about the times that I lose it and don't do it all right and I show my kids what asking for forgiveness looks like.
It's about living life together, loving Jesus and enjoying the journey.
So from one learning mama to the next, keep heart! The work we are doing is not easy and not always tidy, but it is oh, so worth it!